5 Strategies to Help a Child with Low Self Confidence

Many children experience low self-confidence at some point throughout their young lives.  They may experience it for a week, a month, or even years.  The good thing is that as their parent there are many ways you can help them become more confident.


Childhood has a huge impact on how they will feel about themselves as adults.  Children need to feel empowered, so as adults we need to help them learn to believe in themselves and that they can get past even the most challenging obstacles.


You may notice your child making negative comments about themselves or getting extremely frustrated over failed tasks.  They may even begin to refuse trying new things or lose interest in things that they loved before.  These are just a few signs that your child’s self-confidence levels are dropping.  They are beginning to lose belief and trust in their ability to be successful.


Become proactive as a parent, help them before the signs start to show or as soon as you begin to notice the signs with these 5 strategies:


1.      Talk to them: Ask your child how their day went.  Ask them about the activities at school or the fears they have about school.  They may not share at first, but be encouraging and let them know that you are there to talk when they are ready.  When they do open up, keep positive.  Help them gain the perspective they need.


2.      Focus on their strengths.  It seems to be so much easier to focus on their weaknesses.  Children know their weaknesses and constantly being punished for them gives them opportunity to put more focus on them as well.  Instead, let them know that you notice their strengths.  Get them involved in activities that promote their strengths, or assign them tasks around the house that you know they can accomplish.  This will provide them ample opportunities to be successful.


3.      Give them praise and praise them to others. Praise your child for the things they do well, hearing that you know they did well will give their confidence a huge boost.  If they work hard, but get the wrong answer on their homework praise them for the effort and gently help them correct the answer.  Also remember to praise them when talking to others when they are in hearing range.  This will give them pride in the fact that you share you are proud of them to others.


4.      Have clear and appropriate expectations.  You know your child’s abilities, give them expectations that they can achieve.  Sometimes it is good to take a step back and remember that they cannot do everything you can do.

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